i-Teen-BE BOLD!
Shyness is not a downfall, or even something permanent. It’s totally normal to find a little difficulty getting familiar with new people.
But shyness can prevent some people from becoming comfortable in a social situation, and they may feel awkward when trying to talk to other people. People who face this problem want to feel outgoing, and be able to express themselves like their peers, so they can be themselves and contribute in conversation and the other activities going on.
Here are some tips:
‘ Begin these new practices with people you know. Look at people straight in the eyes when you talk. Do not fear this attention.
‘ Practice confident body language. Feel sure in everything you do. Don’t worry about how dumb you think you look. Go for it and be confident.
‘ Introduce yourself to people. At first this will be a huge deal. It may seem strange but your feeling of timidity will only last a second and you’ll have made a leap.
‘ Try some small talk. Ask someone what they’re doing over the weekend, or try complimenting someone on what they’re wearing. Compliments make people feel more comfortable around you rather then awkward around you when you feel shy and insecure.
‘ Ask some questions. Who cares what you ask, that’s the shyness kicking in. Confident people don’t care what others think. Try doing things spontaneously without over-thinking every action.
‘ Find a smile, and be comfortable with the way you look.
‘ Come up with some conversation starters. Let people know who you are. Feel free to ask about things going on in class. If there’s a special phone call you want to make or a note you want to give someone, don’t be afraid to practice. Write down your ideas and look at them, but not for too long. Make a decision and get it over with.
‘ Find something you feel you do well. When you feel you are in your element, you will be more willing to go outside of your comfort zone.
Remember to be assertive. Shy people tend to hold back feelings that need to be confronted, or say things they do not necessarily agree with because they are afraid of the response from their peers. State your opinion and don’t be afraid of being heard.
Most importantly be yourself. Shy people somehow manage to avoid this entirely. Declare your opinions, get involved, express yourself, and find your voice!