Should I remarry at my old age?

Dear Margo: After almost 50 years of marriage and two years of widowhood, a wonderful man has asked me to be his wife. (Who knew it could happen at my age?)

It will be a few months before the actual ceremony, but many obstacles are presenting themselves. For instance, how to deal with an elderly parent who refuses to move from her apartment to be closer to where we will live? So far she is capable of maintaining her own small space, and I could still come to her town and help with shopping once a week, but her stubbornness is making me crazy.

On top of that, my oldest son and a couple of grandchildren seem to think it is weird that people of our age want to be together. Wonder what they would think if they knew what a wonderful, exciting and active sex life we have?

What do we owe children, grandchildren and parents at this point in our lives? Any suggestions for seniors in love? — Snow on the Roof

Dear Snow: How wonderful that you and your fiance have discovered love among the ruins.

As for the obstacles, well, OK, your family, let’s start with your mother. If you were married 50 years, she conceivably could be approaching centenarian territory. When she can no longer live independently, it will reveal itself, and then you will be in charge of the arrangements.

As for your son and the grands, my philosophy is that children, of any age, do not get a vote. The fact that they find your having a companion “weird” just means they’re somewhat limited in their thinking.

What you do not owe family members is living your life according to what they think it ought to be. (And do keep the sex stuff to yourself. This seems to be a secret in the Social Security set.) — Margo, connubially

Dear Margo is written by Margo Howard, Ann Landers’ daughter. All letters must be sent via e-mail to [email protected]. Due to a high volume of e-mail, not all letters will be answered.