i-Teen-Heartbreak & heartache
If you have just recently experienced a break up, you are not alone. We will all experience falling in love and falling on our face, and along with it we will feel passion and pain, happiness and hurt, confidence and low self-esteem, stability and insecurity.
Some feel this is a result of having feelings for someone who doesn’t feel the same, and some may feel heartbreak from losing the one person they thought would never leave them.
Katelyn Burnett says, ‘It helps me to text a bunch of people. Not for revenge but to get my mind off of him.’
Many people when they experience heartbreak or heartache tend to say the same things. They feel heaviness, hurt, and insecure about what they did right and what things they did wrong. It’s not always helpful when your friend tells you that you are too good for him, or your mom tells you he wasn’t good enough anyways.
You have self-doubts and you begin to double think the way things went between you. No matter what the cause of this pain there are ways to lessen the hurt and heal the wounds.
Sarah Williams says, ‘Breaking up stinks but time heals everything, and there will always be more fish in the sea.’
Share your feelings with those you are close to, the people who know you the best, who know just what you need to feel better. Don’t forget you are a wonderful person and you deserve happiness.
Boyfriends and girlfriends come and go. Stick to your routine. Don’t remove yourself from the things you love. Instead dedicate yourself to doing better at those things with your extra time.
Let it all out: Don’t be afraid to cry and talk and cry some more. It’s natural you feel sad and upset. Express yourself and let it all out.
Get active: Discover a hobby and meet new people. Start something new and exciting in your life
Distract yourself: Stay occupied so you find less time to reminisce on the memories and soak up the sadness.
Time is the healer: The first heartbreak is a destroyer to all the things you once found wonderful. With time you will move on and find someone new and you’ll be vibrant all over again.
Alcohol, drugs, and hurting yourself are the worst ways to try and make yourself feel better. These acts only bring temporary satisfaction. In the long run they are ineffective.
Rather than removing the real problem they create more problems for you. If you know someone who is taking an extensive amount of time to recover it may be helpful to recommend some support from a parent, teacher or counselor. Love sometimes hurts but it’s worth it while it lasts, so allow yourself to find love and be willing to fall on your face, because they aren’t all fairy tale endings. Unfortunately!